Dynamic Strategies

'The reason people find it so hard to be happy is that they always see the past better than it was, the present worse than it is, and the future less resolved than it will be' – Marcel Pagnol.

Winners and Losers Training

Every One Is a Bundle of Strong Points and Weaknesses

Given that every person is a bundle of strengths and weaknesses, positives and negatives, qualifications and disqualifications, it is no use accepting oneself as such. If you wish to have effectiveness, success and happiness in various aspects of your life (personal, professional, family and social life), you will need to introspect your areas and extent of these in you. Then, you will have to figure out as to how am I going to improve my strong point further and only remove some of those weak points which seem to be critical to my effectiveness, success and happiness.

What category do you place yourself in -- a winner or a loser? Some years ago I took part in training a group of people in a Business Communication and Personal Development Skills Course. My assignment was to deliver a series of talks related to such subjects as motivation, stress and anger management, and conflict resolution. What I did not realize was that instead of training a group who had a reasonably good income and job security, the members of the new course would be comprised of the long-term unemployed.

I wonder, why do we label ourselves and others as winners and losers? Perception and attitudes, I suppose. If this is the case, then how can I get this group to think it through for themselves and change their perception to being winners? I hurried down to the library and very soon found a little book entitled Winners and Losers by Sydney J. Harris. I must admit when I first saw the title I thought it would probably contain a host of comparisons between what the author thought a winner was and what a loser is -- the winner most likely being some materialistic character who plays one-upmanship over the loser. However, this was not the case; although the book contained forty comparisons, they all made very good sense to me. Here are a few selections:

• When a Winner makes a mistake he says "I was wrong," when a Loser makes a mistake he says "It wasn't my fault."
• A Winner learns from his mistakes. A Loser learns not to make mistakes by not trying anything different.
• A Loser believes in Fate. A Winner believes that we make our fate by what we do or fail to do.
• A Winner stops talking when he has made his point. A Loser goes on until he has blunted his point.
• A Winner in the end gives more than he takes. A Loser dies clinging to the illusion that winning means taking more than you give.

I introduced this course, and everyone was excited to realize that, when they thought about it, there really was another way of looking at things. I quoted a few examples every time we met, and we eventually came up with a course motto: A Winner thinks, a Loser accepts.

So when you think about daily challenges that keep coming up, make sure your thoughts are turned outwards to others, use your intuition, and you will WIN for the right reason!